Double Standards...

Double standard by wikipedia definition is the application of different sets of principles for similar situations, or two different people in the same situation. Blog post sparked by the uproar by religious leaders to ban the 'weka condom mpangoni' advert!

After a short stint of controversy, the advert which has been sponsored by USAID and highly popularized by Classic 105's Maina Kageni was pulled down and banned. I however feel that the condemnation of the advert was uncalled for as i think all of society is trying to run away from reality. Plus it's a tad bit bias seeing as no one complained when Jimmy Gathu's advert 'wacha mpango wa kando' advert was overplayed on every local station.

 In the fight against HIV/AIDS, the advertisement of contraceptives has evolved since its inception, with latest condom ad fueling uproar from the clergy. The culprit this time is none other than the ‘Weka Condom Mpangoni’. The men of the cloth say the advert advocates for sex outside marriage, and portrays Kenyans as an unfaithful lot. The National AIDS and STI Control Programme (NASCOP) however says that what the advert portrays is real and not an exaggeration.-NTV

I think women should be given enough info, if anything at all the advert was in the least advocating for the use of condoms.Let's face facts here, no matter how many times Gathu says 'wacha mpango wa kando' for some it doesn't work that way. What choice are we left with then? Weka condom mpangoni! Don't get me wrong, I am not at all advocating for infidelity but when it comes down to it, most of our society is adulterous...yes I said it!

My next ball of contention is the man who drinks like a fish all day everyday and swear to never ever go out with a girl who drinks; What horseshit!!! I am appalled, and ask why he wouldn't date a girl who loves her drink, the pea brained idiot says because then the lady ceases to look like a responsible woman who would bear kids! 'And you dimwit? Who do you look like?' Please, save him now....I speak for the ladies who love their drink, we can drink responsibly and stop for nine months to carry your babies...cut us some slack!

Then the men can do casual dating, and no one will even say a word...In fact he will get high fives from his buddies. But when a lady says that she is casually dating, she is immediately labelled as a slut.

Men are meant to do the chase, they are predators and the female are prey. Dare you try to change the status quo and you are labelled as loose.

It's cool for men to smoke, but disgustingly ugly when a woman does it....I only quit for health reasons, but if lung cancer did not exist I'd still smoke to prove a point!

Have a Blessed Easter weekend beautiful people...xoxo!

Simple Etiquette...

If you answer your cell phone in the movies, text away callously on a date, sign an e-mail to the Chief Executive of your company as an abbreviation signed by lots of  Xs, and think nothing of striking up conversation with someone in the nude at the gym, you definitely need a guide to the modern-day etiquette.

I turned the big 25 on Thursday, did nothing really proving that age is catching up with me. But i wasn't really bored either, just didn't go all out like i would have a few years back. I went shopping during the day, enjoyed a few drinks in the afternoon and went back to prepare a scrumptious meal for my family in the evening, i even baked a cake and that was it. Now that you are up to date, back to etiquette...

If you have to pick your phone in a public place, keep it short. Don't spill your dirty laundry to everyone the entire bus journey, save the personal details for later and never discuss business in a public place, you never know who is in hearing distance. Most mobile phone companies provide guidelines to remind users to switch off their mobile phones at the cinema, theatre, restaurant, during a business meeting, in a hospital, at a wedding or funeral but how many of us actually do so?

Text messaging is cheap, fun and easy but more importantly it's particularly handy in place of a call you would rather not take. However there is a price to pay for novelty; it's easy to lose sight of the person at the other end of the phone and get carried away with abbreviated words and coded messages. We're in danger of losing quality communication by overusing text messaging. It's a modern means of communication to arrange and cancel appointments but you shouldn't ever shock in a text message. Announcing that you wish to get divorced or a relationship is over in a text message is completely uncivilised.

Try and keep the grammar correct while texting too and the same applies to your punctuation in a professional email as you would if you were hand-writng a formal letter.It doesn't take any extra effort but shows respect and care.To add kisses in an email to someone you don't know is presuming closeness and in our respectful culture, this won't go down well.

Staying calm and not letting other drivers get you hot under the collar is very important. Don't toot your horn if you feel that traffic isn't moving, please use your signal when driving, check for ongoing traffic before you pull out, let people in front of you if they are trying to overtake and dim your lights at night when approaching an on-coming car.

Despite the belief that swimming is meant to be relaxing and an enjoyable leisure activity, if you visit the pool often you will probably find yourself up against some serious etiquette challenges. People kicking water like it's a fight resulting in a mouthful of chlorine for you and a kick in the ribcage. However one of the worst aspects of visiting the pool is the changing room and the same goes for the gym too. People taking their clothes off right in front of you, and then there is a queue for the shower and the lad standing in front of you is in his birthday suit.

I am sort of a neat freak and suffering slightly from mild OCD....lol, i prefer my stuff arranged neatly in order. I am not good with guests and subsequently not a good host, i relish in my space. That being said, my laptop is private, that's why it has a Password. Don't ask me for  my password please, what is you want there? Don't borrow my clothes, i love my wardrobe including the clothes i haven't worn in over a year, don't use that as an excuse. Carry your own necessities i.e cologne, roll-on, towel, bathing suit, nail polish and remover and that kind of stuff. Stay in your space and know your place, don't wake me up with your midnight phone calls, break of dawn alarm ring tones and most of all don't strike up a convo at the climax of a really good movie.

Fab night lovelies...xoxo!