Well, ask anyone what the most important factor in a good relationship is, and most of the answers will be sex. According to Ciku Kimani of the Daily Nation, trust, communication, openness, love and sex are the factors.You wouldn't be able to love someone you don't trust, and communication is only easier between friends plus sex is only enjoyable if couples are open with each other.
So if you have all these is your relationship safe? I don't think so. That brings me to the whole point of jotting this blog post on a chilly Friday evening. Comes the part where no one tells you about, that a relationship is like a car. It needs regular servicing, oil checks & oiling, alignment, and all that garage gibberish. Well, it's not just take take take, it's a take-give kinda agreement. A relationship is work in progress and couples only realise this after the honeymoon phase is over and shit just got real.
Just when you think you have bagged the love of your life, their little annoying habits come out to play. The snoring, the mood swings, skeletons in the closet, same boxers on day three of lounging, the drinking and an assortment of other stuff. Anyway, my point is, people are different and the movies and motivational books cannot teach you how to deal with each and every person.
Sometimes you just have to go out there blindfolded, grope in the dark, and fall a few times before you can stumble and stand again. Every situation for every individual is different, you could ask for advice from your close friend or find someone to talk to but keep in mind we don't all go through the same situations. You at the end of the day have to decide your fate.
Life is not a bed of roses anymore now is it aye? Hey, but then again...what do I know?!
Oh, swithched off both my lines for a week, taking time out from everything and everyone including social network indefinitely...If it is that important, E-mail me @isabel.mboche@yahoo.com.
Later lovelies, and keep warm...xoxo!
