Mid-Twenties crisis

I swear I had it all figured out but ever since I entered the second quarter of my life, CONFUSION GALORE!

Symptoms of the mid-twenties crisis can include one or more of the following: signing up for interminable work experience, doing a Masters, quitting your job, dumping your long term other half, doing an art foundation degree, flying to Mexico, re-evaluating your sexual orientation, becoming an actor or model, squatting or moving back in with your parents. Those are just the symptoms exhibited by my immediate social circle.

Remember when life was simple? Now you feel stuck between your childhood and your adulthood. You constantly compare yourself to your friends who are your age…Everyone’s married already! Or your parents when THEY were your age, they had kids (you) already! They had a house!

You can’t stop thinking about how this isn’t exactly where you pictured you’d be at 25, or 30. Maybe you don’t have a significant other. Maybe you’re not exactly in your dream job. Sure, you were never a “white-picket fence” person, but you thought you’d at least have SOME of your shit together by now.
The young of your species used to be straightforward: they were gross, vomity, screamy, expensive balls of dribble. But now, your feelings towards babies have become seriously conflicted. And whilst the first thing you think of when you see babies now is still ‘NOT YET’, you’ve begun to feel a little stirring somewhere below your belly button when you see the offspring of friends and family gurgling away in their prams.
You’ve come to realise that actually, babies are just slightly less hairy, slightly more terrifying puppies. And you sort of want one…

Going out clubbing seems less and less appealing, you feel increasingly alienated and you no longer feel shame about spending a night in by yourself; in fact, you might even start to prefer it. And now you’re panicked that failing at one thing means you’ll continue failing and fuck up your life in some irretrievable way.

 Maybe you’re not quite ready to take ALL hookups off the table, but if you’re single, you might be feeling increasingly unfulfilled by dates or encounters that lead to nothing. If you’re in a relationship, you might be questioning if you really want to be with this person long-term — and maybe even debating whether it’s too late to find someone else.

One minute you’re embracing the desire you feel to grow up, settle down and get a stable job/partner/life and the next, you’re shouting at your mother down the phone: ‘I’m 28 years old! I don’t have to make these decisions for YEARS! I don’t need to settle down – in fact, I might go and live abroad for a while!’

Enjoy the Friday lovelies...xoxo!