I am a hopeless romantic, you wouldn't tell just by looking at me though. In fact if just went by the outside look, you'd think i had an ice box in the place where my heart is supposed to be. I am pretty much guarded, that's why but if you get to break down the walls around my heart, you get a really fragile person who truly honestly believes in love and loves to be in love.I am not afraid of love or of falling in love either,that being said,i have been on that horse severally, i fell down most times but got up, dusted myself off and picked what seemed to be a better horse than the previous one. Well, the horse was either too moody, too hungry or thirsty and it dropped me on my ass every chance it got, or i left it by the roadside and decided to walk instead.
A friend the other day asked me if i was dating my soul mate...my immediate response was that did not believe in soul mates. He went on to tell me about a really old couple he knew that had dated since high school and were still together going strong now in their eighties. My response was that that was simply love and a couple who were truly wholeheartedly willing to work at their relationship. He went on to tell me stuff about light being to day and dark being to night, and that subsequently there should be a Y to my X out there somewhere. I guess he is more of a hopeless romantic than i am.
Well, my point in short is, I doubt there is that one person who completes the puzzle reason being i have met people i thought THIS IS IT but alas...Or maybe there is, who knows but i am pretty sure most of us will die having not met our 'significant' other. The trick is finding someone who fits most of what you look for in a mate,they cannot of course be perfect, no one is. Someone's who's imperfections you can live with, it's not as easy as that though, i know people who've met such, dated for long periods of time but it still goes wrong.There is not one manual you can follow as everyone is different, know when to let go as well. Do not let yourself be a doormat. When respect and trust go out the door, make sure you are fast on their heels out too but don't let the door hit you on your way out.
You're allowed to fight for it, but be smart...don't fight blindly, you might just lose your self esteem as your relationship goes down the drain and we don't want that. If it feels too one-sided,when you're doing all the work and it's draining you...it's time to call it quits. You don't have to fight for space in someone's life, if they want you there, they'll put you there!!! It's that simple. It's not the end of the world, i am pretty sure someone is willing to treat you better, your soul mate maybe, who knows?!
Peace...xoxo!
